Lesbian Truth or Dare: 100 Questions and Dares, Plus Kinky Games for Two

Truth or dare is a party game. Between two women in a bedroom, it’s foreplay. These 100 lesbian truth or dare questions and dares are written for queer women, girlfriends, wives and hookups alike, and they go from flirty to properly kinky.

They work for any sapphic couple: swap any word that doesn’t fit you. Everything here is for two consenting adults, in private.

Before you start

• Set the ceiling. Flirty, spicy or kinky? Anything not clearly in is out.
• Pick a safeword that ends the game instantly, no sulking.
• Skip freely. Pass on any card without needing a reason.
• Go up in steps. Start with the flirty ones and move on when you’re both enjoying it.

Want the cards shuffled for you? Our free online truth or dare has flirty, spicy and kinky levels with timers, and you can add any card from this page.

Flirty truths

Easy openers, with a sapphic twist.

1. Who was your first girl crush, and did she ever know?
2. When did you first realize you liked women?
3. What did you think the first time you saw me?
4. What’s the first thing you noticed about my body?
5. Who made the first move between us, really?
6. What’s the most stereotypically lesbian thing about you?
7. What’s a celebrity crush you’d be embarrassed to admit?
8. What’s the sexiest thing I wear without realizing?
9. Where do you most love being kissed?
10. What’s the best kiss we’ve ever had?
11. What’s a song that makes you think of us in bed?
12. What’s something I do that drives you crazy, in a good way?
13. Have you ever had a dream about me? What happened?
14. What’s the flirtiest message you’ve ever sent me?
15. What’s your favorite part of my body to look at?
16. What were you thinking the last time you checked me out?
17. Have you ever borrowed my clothes just to smell like me?
18. Do you prefer making the first move or having me make it?
19. What’s a compliment from me you’ve never forgotten?
20. If we had a whole day with no plans, how would you want to spend it with me?

Flirty dares

Kisses, tension, and a bit of blushing.

21. Kiss your partner’s neck for 30 seconds without touching her anywhere else.
22. Slow dance with your partner to a song she picks.
23. Whisper something in her ear that makes her blush.
24. Give your partner a two-minute shoulder massage.
25. Kiss your way from her wrist to her shoulder.
26. Brush your lips against hers without kissing her, for ten seconds.
27. Sit in her lap until your next turn.
28. Take off one item of clothing, as slowly as you can.
29. Run your fingers through her hair for one minute.
30. Give her three kisses: sweet, teasing, and hungry.
31. Trace a word on her back with your finger. She has to guess it.
32. Let her choose where you kiss her next.
33. Do your best seductive walk across the room toward her.
34. Text her something flirty while you’re sitting right next to each other.
35. Kiss her like the last scene of a romantic film.

Spicy truths

Frank, warm, and about the two of you.

36. What’s the first thing you’d do to me if we were alone right now?
37. What’s your biggest turn-on I don’t know about?
38. What’s your favorite thing I do to you in bed?
39. Fingers, mouth or a toy: what do you want tonight?
40. What do you think about when you touch yourself?
41. What’s the hottest night we’ve ever had?
42. Slow and teasing, or fast and rough?
43. Have you ever faked an orgasm with me? Be honest.
44. What’s one thing you want me to do more of in bed, starting tonight?
45. Where’s the one place on my body you can’t stop thinking about?
46. Would you rather go down on me or have me go down on you?
47. Strap-on, scissoring, or my hands: what’s your favorite?
48. What’s a position we haven’t tried that you’d like to?
49. What’s a fantasy about me you’ve never said out loud?
50. Lights on, lights off, or in front of a mirror?
51. What’s something you’ve wanted to ask for in bed but felt shy about?
52. What words do you love hearing from me during sex?
53. When did you last get turned on thinking about me somewhere you couldn’t do anything about it?
54. If anywhere in the world were possible, where’s the wildest place you’ve fantasized about having me?
55. What’s the one thing that gets you there every time?

Spicy dares

Hands-on, private, and meant to lead somewhere.

56. Give your partner a one-minute lap dance. She’s not allowed to touch.
57. Undress her one item at a time, kissing every patch of skin you uncover.
58. Kiss your way down her stomach and stop at the waistband. Make her wait.
59. Take off her underwear using only your teeth.
60. Let her blindfold you and kiss you anywhere she likes for one minute.
61. Strip for her to a song she chooses, all the way down to nothing.
62. Kiss her inner thighs, slowly, getting closer every ten seconds.
63. Show her, on yourself, exactly how you like to be touched.
64. Straddle her and grind slowly in her lap for one song.
65. Run an ice cube along her collarbone, then warm the same path with your mouth.
66. Let her touch you anywhere for one minute while your hands stay behind your back.
67. Moan her name the way you do when you’re about to come.
68. Whisper exactly what you’re going to do to her later, in detail.
69. Get naked and stay that way until the end of the game.
70. Touch yourself for one minute while she watches. Don’t break eye contact.
71. Go down on her for one minute, then stop, however much she begs.
72. Use a toy on her for one minute, at the speed she chooses.
73. Lie back and let her tease you with her mouth for two minutes. You can’t touch back.
74. Scissor for one minute, clothes on, kissing the whole time. Then decide whether the clothes stay on.
75. Take her to bed and give her the one thing she asked for tonight.

Kinky truths

For couples who are curious about kink, or already into it.

76. Would you rather tie me up or be tied up?
77. Do you like being in charge in bed, or being told what to do?
78. Praise or degradation: which turns you on more?
79. Would you rather be called a good girl or something filthier?
80. What’s a kink you’re curious about but haven’t told me?
81. What would you do with me if I gave you complete control for an hour?
82. Would you like me to wear a strap-on for you, or wear one for me?
83. What’s a roleplay scenario you’d love us to try (both adults)?
84. What’s a hard limit I should always remember?
85. What would you want to beg me for?

Kinky dares

Agree limits and a safeword first, and keep checking in.

86. Kneel in front of her until she tells you to get up.
87. Follow three orders from her, exactly (or use your safeword).
88. Tie her wrists with a scarf and tease her with your mouth for two minutes.
89. Give her ten spanks, getting gradually firmer. She counts out loud.
90. Edge her once. She has to ask permission before she comes.
91. Pin her wrists above her head and kiss her until she says please.
92. Call her “Miss”, “Ma’am” or a title she chooses until the end of the game.
93. Stay completely still while she teases you. Every movement adds 30 seconds.
94. Blindfold her and make her guess which part of her body you’re kissing.
95. Praise her body, slowly and in detail, while she kneels naked in front of you.
96. Undress completely while she stays fully clothed and watches.
97. Your partner may only answer you with “yes, please” or the safeword for three minutes.
98. Scratch her down her back, then kiss every line.
99. Lie back, hands above your head, and let her do whatever she likes for five minutes, within your limits.
100. Pick a ‘good’ word and a ‘bad’ word for the night. She earns a kiss for one and a spank for the other.

8 more kinky games for lesbian couples

Done with truth or dare? These lesbian sex games need little or nothing but the two of you.

1. Never have I ever. Take turns confessing. With two of you, every “I have” comes with a story. Start with our never have I ever questions for couples, then move on to the dirty ones.
2. Would you rather. Fast, revealing, and great for finding what you’d both like to try. Use our dirty would you rather questions or play the online version, where you each answer privately and then compare.
3. Sex dice. Roll for an action, a body part and how long. Our free sex dice game has sweet, spicy and kinky sets.
4. The blindfold guessing game. One of you is blindfolded; the other touches her with a feather, an ice cube, a fingertip, lips or a toy. Wrong guesses earn a forfeit. See sensory deprivation for how to do it safely.
5. The tease timer. Set a timer for five minutes. One of you teases, the other isn’t allowed to move or touch back. Swap. Whoever breaks first owes a dare.
6. Strip anything. Strip poker, strip Uno, strip trivia about each other. Lose a round, lose an item. The winner chooses what comes off.
7. The hot seat. Two minutes of rapid-fire sexy questions. Answer fast, no overthinking, then swap.
8. Yes, no, maybe. Fill in our yes/no/maybe list separately. It only shows what you both said yes or maybe to, so it’s the easiest way to find a shared kink without anyone having to ask out loud.

Want more? Our guide to sex games for couples has 25.

Keep it good for both of you

• Check in. A quick “still good?” keeps a dirty dare feeling hot instead of pressured.
• No dare overrides a no. Skipping is part of the game, not a failure.
• Safer sex still applies. Clean toys before and after, and use a fresh condom on toys you share or switch between partners. Women can pass STIs to each other.
• Afterwards, a cuddle and a laugh about the best moments is the perfect ending. That’s aftercare, and it matters even after a game.

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• Spicy truth or dare questions and dares for couples for even more cards.