Dares for Couples: 100 Cute, Flirty and Dirty Dares

A good dare turns an ordinary evening into a story you’ll tell later. These 100 dares for couples go from cute and silly to properly dirty, so you can pick the mood, or work your way up through all four levels.

Use them in a game of truth or dare, fold them into a date-night jar, or send one a day by message. The dirty and kinky dares are for two consenting adults, in private.

How to use these dares

• In truth or dare. Our list of truth or dare questions has the truths; take dares from here.
• Dare jar. Write your favorites on slips of paper, fold them, and draw one on date night.
• As a gift. Turn a few into printable sex coupons your partner can redeem whenever they like.
• One a day. Text your partner a dare each morning. The flirty ones work well over text.
• Skip freely. Any dare can be passed. Agree a safeword for the dirty and kinky levels.

Cute and fun dares

For a laugh, a cuddle, and a lazy evening in.

1. Slow dance in the kitchen to the next song that comes on.
2. Cook your partner a meal blindfolded, with them as your guide.
3. Write your partner a love note and hide it somewhere they’ll find it tomorrow.
4. Recreate your first date, as closely as you can, at home.
5. Let your partner give you a makeover. You keep it for an hour.
6. Speak only in song lyrics until your next turn.
7. Give your partner a piggyback ride around the room.
8. Do your best impression of your partner. They score it out of ten.
9. Draw a portrait of your partner in one minute.
10. Build a blanket fort together and spend the next ten minutes in it.
11. Tell your partner three things you love about them, without repeating yourself.
12. Let your partner choose the next film, with no complaining.
13. Make up a new pet name for your partner and use it all evening.
14. Feed your partner dessert, one spoonful at a time.
15. Plan a surprise date and give your partner one clue.
16. Hold hands for the next ten minutes, whatever you’re doing.
17. Tell your partner the moment you knew you liked them.
18. Swap phones for five minutes and scroll each other’s photos.
19. Teach your partner a dance move. They have to perform it.
20. Give your partner a hug that lasts a full 30 seconds.
21. Recreate a photo of the two of you from when you first met.
22. Narrate what your partner is doing like a nature documentary, for one minute.
23. Let your partner pick your outfit for tomorrow.
24. Write a two-line poem about your partner and read it out loud.
25. Make a playlist of five songs that remind you of your partner.

Flirty dares

Kisses, compliments, and a little tension.

26. Kiss your partner somewhere other than their lips, three times.
27. Give your partner a two-minute shoulder massage.
28. Whisper something in your partner’s ear that makes them blush.
29. Kiss your partner for 30 seconds without using your hands.
30. Trace a word on your partner’s back with your finger. They have to guess it.
31. Kiss your partner from their wrist to their shoulder.
32. Brush your lips against your partner’s without kissing them, for ten seconds.
33. Send your partner a flirty message while you’re sitting right next to them.
34. Hold your partner’s face and kiss them like the last scene of a film.
35. Give your partner your best “come here” look and hold it for ten seconds.
36. Run your fingers through your partner’s hair for one minute.
37. Sit in your partner’s lap until your next turn.
38. Nuzzle your partner’s neck and whisper their name.
39. Kiss each of your partner’s fingertips.
40. Describe the best kiss you two have ever had.
41. Take off one item of clothing, as slowly as you can.
42. Give your partner three kisses: sweet, teasing, and hungry.
43. Tell your partner what you were thinking the last time you checked them out.
44. Rest your forehead against your partner’s for 20 seconds and just breathe.
45. Kiss your partner’s neck slowly while they try to keep a straight face.
46. Let your partner choose where you kiss them next.
47. Wear something your partner picks for the rest of the night.
48. Trace your partner’s lips with your fingertip, then kiss them.
49. Wrap your arms around your partner from behind and sway together for one song.
50. Text your partner tomorrow at lunchtime with what you’d like to do tonight.

Dirty dares

For couples who want the dare to lead somewhere. Private and consensual only.

51. Strip completely, then sit across from your partner and let them look for one full minute.
52. Give your partner a lap dance to a song they pick, losing one item of clothing per chorus.
53. Undress your partner using only your mouth and one hand.
54. Kiss your partner’s inner thighs for one minute, getting closer every ten seconds.
55. Touch yourself for one minute while your partner watches. They tell you when to stop.
56. Let your partner touch you anywhere for one minute. You can’t touch back or make a sound.
57. Lick something sweet off a part of your partner’s body they choose.
58. Blindfold your partner and kiss your way down their body until they’re begging.
59. Give your partner a naked oil massage, saving the obvious places for last.
60. Whisper, in detail, what you’re going to do to your partner when the game ends.
61. Shower together, and wash every inch of each other with your hands.
62. Go down on your partner for one minute. Then stop, and make them wait for your next turn.
63. Show your partner exactly how you like to be touched, on yourself, until you’re breathless.
64. Let your partner choose a toy and use it on you for two minutes.
65. Straddle your partner naked and kiss them without letting them touch you.
66. Moan your partner’s name the way you do right before you come.
67. Bend over the bed and let your partner give you three spanks, then kiss each spot.
68. Take off your partner’s underwear with your teeth, then kiss the skin it was covering.
69. Get your partner right to the edge with your hand, then stop and make them wait one minute.
70. Read a steamy scene from a book out loud while your partner touches you. Keep reading.
71. Tell your partner the hottest thing you remember them doing to you, in detail.
72. Let your partner tie your hands for the rest of the round and do what they like.
73. Ride your partner, fully clothed, for one minute. Then decide whether the clothes stay on.
74. Pick one thing your partner has to do to you before you sleep tonight. No vetoes after the game.
75. Text your partner a dirty dare to do to you the next time you’re alone together.

Kinky dares

Agree limits and a safeword before these, and keep checking in.

76. Kneel at your partner’s feet and ask, politely and in detail, for what you want.
77. Follow three orders from your partner, exactly (or use your safeword).
78. Tie your partner’s wrists with a scarf and tease them with your mouth for two minutes.
79. Give your partner ten spanks, getting gradually firmer. They count out loud and thank you.
80. Edge your partner twice. They must thank you each time you stop.
81. Blindfold your partner and run something cold, soft and rough over their skin, everywhere.
82. Call your partner “sir”, “miss”, or a title of their choice for the rest of the night.
83. Stay perfectly still while your partner teases you for one minute. Every movement restarts the clock.
84. Pin your partner’s wrists above their head and don’t let them kiss you until they beg.
85. Put your partner over your knee, bare, for five spanks, checking in after each one.
86. Your partner sets a rule for the night. Every time you break it, you owe them a spank.
87. Praise your partner, slowly and in detail, while they kneel naked in front of you.
88. Scratch your partner down their back, then kiss every line.
89. Your partner may only answer you with “yes, please” or their safeword for three minutes.
90. Put a collar on your partner (or tie a ribbon around their wrist) and lead them to bed.
91. Make your partner describe exactly what they want, out loud, before you do anything at all.
92. Undress completely while your partner stays fully clothed and watches.
93. Your partner keeps their hands behind their back while you kiss and touch them anywhere for two minutes.
94. Play a strict boss and a late employee (both adults) for two minutes. Your partner picks who’s who.
95. Bite your partner gently on the shoulder, neck and inner thigh, then kiss it better.
96. Drip warm (never hot) massage oil on your partner’s back and work it in with your nails.
97. Choose a ‘good’ word and a ‘bad’ word for the night. Your partner earns a kiss or a spank.
98. Your partner may not come tonight without asking your permission first.
99. Tell your partner exactly how you want to be used tonight, in detail.
100. Lie back, hands above your head, and let your partner do whatever they like for five minutes, within your limits.

Make it yours

The best dares are the ones you write yourselves. Each of you writes ten on slips of paper, folds them and puts them in a jar, then draws one each date night. You’ll learn more from what your partner writes than from anything on a list.

Not sure where each other’s limits are? Fill in our yes/no/maybe list separately first: it only shows where you overlap. For more ideas, try our spicy truth or dare questions the full list of sex games for couples, or a sex bucket list of 100 things to try together. Want a month of it? Our 30 day sex challenge gives you one idea a day.