Truth or Dare Questions for Adults: 150 Truths and Dares

Truth or dare is the oldest party game there is, and it gets a lot more interesting when it’s just adults, or just the two of you. Below are 150 truth or dare questions for grown-ups, sorted into three heat levels so you can start gently and turn it up when everyone’s ready.

All of these are for consenting adults. Nothing here is meant for anyone under 18, or for anyone who hasn’t agreed to play.

How to play truth or dare

1. Agree the heat level. Flirty, spicy, or kinky. Each level includes the ones below it.
2. Agree a safeword that stops the game for everyone, no questions asked.
3. Take turns. On your turn, pick truth (answer honestly) or dare (do the challenge).
4. Skip freely. Anyone can pass on any card. Draw another, or switch to truth.
5. Keep it private. Spicy dares are for behind closed doors, never anywhere the public could see.

Prefer not to read from a list? Our free online truth or dare game shuffles 340+ cards for you, with timers for timed dares and room to add your own. Or print our truth or dare cards for a phone-free night.

Flirty truth questions

Light, curious and a little bit cheeky. Good for warming up.

1. What’s the first thing you notice when you’re attracted to someone?
2. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for someone?
3. Who was your first kiss, and how did it happen?
4. What’s a song that always gets you in the mood?
5. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve done to impress someone?
6. What’s your idea of the perfect first date?
7. Have you ever had a crush on a friend’s partner?
8. What’s the cheesiest line you’ve ever used, and did it work?
9. What’s a compliment you’ve never forgotten?
10. What’s the longest you’ve gone without kissing anyone?
11. Who’s the most attractive person in this room, and why?
12. What’s something that instantly makes someone more attractive to you?
13. What’s the flirtiest message you’ve ever sent?
14. What’s a celebrity crush you’d be embarrassed to admit?
15. Have you ever been caught checking someone out?
16. What’s your favorite thing to wear when you want to feel good about yourself?
17. What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?
18. Do you prefer making the first move or having someone make it?
19. Where’s the most unusual place you’ve had a kiss?
20. What’s a habit of yours you think other people find attractive?
21. What’s the nicest thing a partner has ever said about your body?
22. Morning person or night owl when it comes to romance?
23. What’s something you pretend not to like but secretly do?
24. What’s the best kiss you’ve ever had?
25. If you could have one more date with anyone, who would it be?

Flirty dares

Nothing too much: just enough to make someone blush.

26. Give the person on your left a 30-second shoulder massage.
27. Whisper something flirty into someone’s ear.
28. Do your best seductive walk across the room.
29. Let someone draw a heart anywhere on your arm.
30. Slow dance with someone for one song.
31. Text your crush (or your partner) something flirty right now.
32. Kiss someone’s hand like a knight in an old film.
33. Give the person of your choice your best smoldering look for ten seconds.
34. Let someone else pick your profile picture for the next 24 hours.
35. Describe the person opposite you using only compliments for 30 seconds.
36. Sit on someone’s lap until your next turn.
37. Feed someone a bite of something without using your hands.
38. Do your best impression of how you flirt.
39. Let the group pick a pet name you have to answer to until the end of the game.
40. Hold eye contact with someone for 30 seconds without laughing.
41. Serenade someone with one line of a love song.
42. Give someone a kiss on the cheek.
43. Swap one item of clothing with someone.
44. Let someone style your hair however they like.
45. Read out the last flirty message you sent.
46. Pick someone to give you a one-minute hand massage.
47. Show everyone your best dance move.
48. Spin around three times and kiss whoever you’re facing on the cheek, if they say yes.
49. Let the person on your right post a status on your behalf (they read it out first).
50. Recreate your favorite romantic film kiss, with a pillow.

Spicy truth questions

Personal, flirty and about sex. Best for couples or close friends who all want to go there.

51. What’s your biggest turn-on?
52. What’s an instant turn-off in bed?
53. What’s the most adventurous private place you’ve had sex?
54. What’s a fantasy you’ve never told anyone?
55. What’s your favorite position, and what makes it the best?
56. Have you ever sent a nude? Did you regret it?
57. What’s the best sex you’ve ever had, and what made it so good?
58. What’s something you’ve always wanted to try in bed but haven’t?
59. What do you think about when you touch yourself?
60. Lights on, lights off, or in front of a mirror?
61. What’s the dirtiest thing a partner has ever said to you in bed?
62. Have you ever had a sex dream about someone in this room?
63. Which part of your body do you most love being touched?
64. What’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex, and how did it end?
65. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Why?
66. What’s a word or phrase that turns you on instantly?
67. Have you ever been walked in on in the middle of sex?
68. Do you prefer being undressed or undressing someone?
69. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done for sex?
70. Slow and romantic, or fast and urgent?
71. What’s something someone did to you in bed that surprised you in a very good way?
72. Have you ever used a sex toy with a partner? Which one?
73. What’s the dirtiest message you’ve ever sent?
74. Giving or receiving oral: which do you love more?
75. If you could have sex anywhere in the world, with no chance of anyone seeing, where would it be?

Spicy dares

For couples, or groups where everyone has said yes to this level. Keep it consensual and private.

76. Give your partner a 30-second lap dance.
77. Kiss and nibble your partner’s neck for 20 seconds.
78. Take off one item of clothing, as slowly as you can.
79. Let your partner blindfold you and kiss you anywhere they like for one minute.
80. Whisper exactly what you want to do to your partner later, in detail.
81. Remove an item of your partner’s clothing using only your teeth.
82. Moan your partner’s name the way you would if they were going down on you.
83. Give your partner a hickey somewhere only they’ll see, if they want one.
84. Do a one-minute striptease to a song your partner picks.
85. Kiss your partner’s inner thigh, as high as they’ll let you.
86. Let your partner tie your hands with a scarf until your next turn.
87. Run an ice cube down your partner’s spine, then kiss the same path.
88. Show your partner, on yourself, how you like to be touched.
89. Kiss your partner everywhere above the waist except their lips.
90. Give your partner three spanks: soft, medium and their choice.
91. Read the steamiest paragraph you can find out loud, in your sexiest voice.
92. Straddle your partner and kiss them for one minute without letting them touch you.
93. Undress down to your underwear and stay that way until your next turn.
94. Let your partner touch you anywhere they like for 30 seconds while you keep your hands behind your back.
95. Describe your partner’s naked body out loud, slowly, the way you’d like to touch it.
96. Lick a drop of something sweet off your partner’s skin, wherever they choose.
97. Pose for your partner the way you think you look sexiest.
98. Kiss your partner like you’re about to rip their clothes off.
99. Let your partner choose two items of clothing for you to take off.
100. Breathe slowly on your partner’s neck without touching them for 30 seconds.

Kinky truth questions

For couples who already talk openly about kink, or want to start.

101. Would you rather tie me up or be tied up?
102. What’s a kink you’re curious about but haven’t tried?
103. Do you like being in charge in bed, or being told what to do?
104. What would you do with me if I handed you complete control for an hour?
105. Praise or degradation: which turns you on more?
106. What’s a roleplay scenario you’d love to act out?
107. What’s a hard limit I should always remember?
108. What would you want me to call you in a scene?
109. Have you ever wanted to be spanked until it really stings?
110. What would your perfect scene look like, start to finish?
111. Would you like me to edge you until you beg?
112. Blindfold or restraints: which would you try first?
113. What’s something you’d like to beg me for?
114. What’s a rule you’d like me to give you for a day?
115. What’s a toy you’d like us to buy together, and who’s it for?
116. Have you ever been to a sex shop? What did you look at longest?
117. What punishment would you secretly enjoy?
118. Would you rather watch me touch myself, or have me watch you?
119. Do you like marks the next day, or would you rather they fade fast?
120. What do you need from me after an intense scene?
121. What’s a fantasy you’d only ever want to talk about, never act out?
122. What’s the most submissive or dominant thing you’ve ever done in bed?
123. Wax, ice, or scratching: which sensation would you pick?
124. Have you ever wanted to be used for someone’s pleasure, just for one night?
125. How would you want a scene to start: a word, a look, or a collar?

Kinky dares

Agree limits and a safeword before any of these, and check in throughout.

126. Kneel in front of your partner until they tell you to get up.
127. Let your partner give you three orders. Follow each one exactly (or use your safeword).
128. Tie your partner’s wrists with a scarf and tease them with your mouth for two minutes.
129. Give your partner ten spanks, getting gradually firmer. They count out loud.
130. Edge your partner once. They must ask permission before they come.
131. Blindfold your partner and alternate ice and warm breath across their body for one minute.
132. Stay completely still while your partner teases you. Every movement adds 30 seconds.
133. Call your partner the title they choose until the end of the game.
134. Pin your partner’s wrists above their head and kiss them until they beg.
135. Ask your partner, politely and in detail, for exactly what you want them to do to you.
136. Let your partner set one rule for the rest of the game. Break it and you owe them a spank.
137. Scratch your partner down their back, then kiss every line.
138. Put your partner over your knee for five spanks, checking in after each one.
139. Praise your partner’s body, slowly and in detail, while they kneel naked in front of you.
140. Hold your partner’s hands behind their back while you kiss their neck for one minute.
141. Make your partner wait 30 seconds, perfectly still, before you touch them.
142. Your partner may only answer you with “yes, please” or their safeword for three minutes.
143. Act out the first minute of a roleplay scene your partner chooses (both adults).
144. Lead your partner to the bed by the wrist and tell them exactly what happens next.
145. Bite your partner gently on the shoulder, then kiss it better.
146. Undress completely while your partner stays fully clothed and watches.
147. Touch yourself for one minute, following your partner’s instructions exactly.
148. Blindfold your partner and make them guess which body part you’re kissing.
149. Choose one thing your partner must do to you before they go to sleep tonight.
150. Pick a ‘good’ word and a ‘bad’ word for the night. Your partner earns a kiss for one and a spank for the other.

Tips for a great game

• Start lower than you think. It’s easy to turn the heat up and awkward to turn it down. Flirty first, then check in.
• Make your own cards. Each of you writes five truths and five dares you’d love to get, then shuffle them in. Our online game lets you add your own cards too.
• Agree limits before you start. Not sure where your partner’s limits are? Our yes/no/maybe list shows where you overlap without anyone having to ask.
• Aftercare isn’t just for kink. If things got intense, take a moment afterwards to cuddle, laugh, and talk about what you loved.

More questions and dares

• Spicy truth or dare questions: 100 dirtier truths and dares for couples.
• Dares for couples: 100 dares from cute to kinky.
• Truth or dare over text: for long-distance couples, or a slow-burn day of messages.
• Sexy questions to ask your partner, when you’d rather just talk.
• Questions to ask your girlfriend or your boyfriend, from sweet to spicy.
• Lesbian truth or dare: 100 truths and dares for queer women.
• Sex games for couples: 25 more games to play tonight.