Truth or Dare Over Text: 80 Questions and Dares for Texting

Truth or dare works brilliantly over text. The slow pace builds anticipation, people are often braver typing than talking, and a dare sent at lunchtime has all afternoon to simmer. It’s perfect for long-distance couples, or for a flirty day apart before an evening together.

Here’s how to play, plus 80 truths and dares written for messaging.

How to play over text

1. Send “truth or dare?” Your partner picks one.
2. Send a truth or a dare. Truths get answered by message. Dares get done and reported back: a message, a voice note, or (only if you’ve both agreed) a photo.
3. Swap. Now it’s their turn to ask you.
4. Save some for later. “Dare you to do this the next time we’re alone” is one of the best moves in the game.

Agree the ground rules first: how spicy, whether photos are part of it, and that “pass” is always allowed.

Keeping it private

• Only send what’s been asked for, and what you’d be OK with if it ever got out. Many people leave their face, tattoos and backgrounds out of intimate photos.
• Use an app you trust, and check who else can see your screen or notifications.
• Never forward, save or show anything your partner sends without asking. Sharing someone’s intimate images without consent is illegal in many places.
• Describe instead of send if you’re not sure. Words can be just as hot.

Flirty truth questions for texting

Easy to answer, fun to read.

1. What were you thinking the last time you looked at me?
2. What’s the first thing you’d do if I walked in right now?
3. What’s your favorite photo of me, and why?
4. Describe me in three words. Go.
5. What’s something I do that you miss when we’re apart?
6. When did you last think about me today?
7. What outfit of mine is your favorite?
8. What’s the best kiss we’ve had?
9. What song makes you think of me?
10. What’s one thing you’d love to do on our next date?
11. What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever wanted to say to me but didn’t?
12. Cuddling or kissing, if you could only have one tonight?
13. What’s your favorite memory of us?
14. What’s a pet name you’d secretly love me to call you?
15. What do you think about before you fall asleep?
16. Where would you take me if we could go anywhere this weekend?
17. What do you find most attractive about me?
18. What’s something you’ve never told me about the first time we met?
19. Rate your day out of ten. What would make it an eleven?
20. What are you wearing right now? Honestly.

Flirty dares for texting

Done in a minute, reported back by message or voice note.

21. Send me a voice note saying my name the way you’d say it in bed.
22. Send a selfie with your best “come here” look.
23. Tell me three things you’d do to me if I were there, one message at a time.
24. Send me a photo of your view right now.
25. Write me a two-line love poem. No rhyming allowed.
26. Change my name in your phone to something flirty and send me a screenshot.
27. Send me a song that describes how you feel about me.
28. Describe the last dream you had about me.
29. Send me a voice note of you laughing.
30. Text me the next time you think about me today, wherever you are.
31. Send a photo of the outfit you’d wear on our next date.
32. Tell me what you’d cook me for dinner tonight.
33. Send me the last photo in your camera roll (or the nearest one that’s safe to send).
34. Describe your perfect lazy Sunday with me in five messages.
35. Make up a story about our next date and send it one line at a time.
36. Send me your best pickup line.
37. Record ten seconds of you saying what you like most about me.
38. Send me a selfie doing your best impression of me.
39. Set an alarm to send me something sweet at midnight.
40. Save this dare for later: kiss me the moment you see me next, before saying hello.

Spicy truth questions for texting

For when the messages get warmer.

41. What’s the dirtiest thought you’ve had about me today?
42. If I were in bed next to you right now, what would you do to me first?
43. What are you wearing, and what would you like me to take off first?
44. What’s a fantasy about me you’d only admit by text?
45. Where do you want my hands right now? And my mouth?
46. What’s your favorite thing I do to you in bed?
47. When did you last touch yourself thinking about me, and what was I doing to you?
48. What do you want me wearing, or not wearing, the next time we’re together?
49. What’s the hottest message I’ve ever sent you?
50. What do you want me to do to you the second I walk through the door?
51. What’s something new you want to try with me next time?
52. Describe our best night together in three words, then in three filthy sentences.
53. What’s turning you on right now, tonight?
54. Would you rather I teased you all day by text, or saved it all for tonight?
55. What do you want me to whisper in your ear while I’m on top of you?
56. Slow or urgent, when I see you next?
57. Which part of my body are you thinking about right now, and what are you doing to it?
58. What’s something you’re too shy to ask for in person?
59. What’s the naughtiest place you’ve ever read one of my messages?
60. If I could read your mind right now, what would make me blush?

Spicy dares for texting

Only with someone who’s said yes to this level. Photos only if you’ve both agreed.

61. Describe, in detail, what you’ll do to me the next time we’re alone.
62. Send me a voice note whispering something you’d never say out loud.
63. Send a photo of what you’re wearing under your clothes right now (no face needed).
64. Write me the opening line of a dirty story starring us. I’ll write the next.
65. Tell me exactly how you want me to go down on you tonight.
66. Go somewhere private and send me a voice note telling me what you’re thinking about.
67. Send me a photo of the spot where you want my mouth first (only if you’re comfortable).
68. Text me a dare to do to you the next time we’re together. I can’t say no until I’ve read it twice.
69. Describe the last time you touched yourself, in three messages.
70. Choose what I wear to bed tonight, or tell me to wear nothing, and say why.
71. Send me one message an hour until tonight about what’s waiting for me.
72. Tell me your favorite position, and exactly why, in under 20 words.
73. Wear something under your clothes today that only I know about, and tell me what.
74. Write down one rule for me to follow until we see each other next.
75. Send a voice note moaning my name, somewhere private.
76. Touch yourself for one minute, somewhere private, then tell me what you thought about.
77. Tell me something you want me to beg you for.
78. Describe what you’d do if I were tied to your bed right now.
79. If we have an app-controlled toy, take control of mine for one minute. (Private place, and I can say stop any time.)
80. Save this one: the next time we’re together, you’re in charge for an hour.

More ways to play apart

• Let our online truth or dare game deal the cards. Switch it to Apart: send cards and it sends each truth or dare as a link through your usual chat; your partner opens it, plays, and sends one back. Its Long Distance pack is written for texts, voice notes and video calls, and the card travels inside the link, so it never reaches us.
• Our sex games for couples guide has a whole section on long-distance games.
• Want more questions? Try our full list of truth or dare questions or sexy questions to ask your partner, or borrow a line from our sexting examples.
• Texting someone special? We have truth or dare questions for your girlfriend and your boyfriend.