Sexting Examples: 120 Texts to Send, From Flirty to Filthy

Sexting is dirty talk you can take your time over. You can write and rewrite, a message sent at lunchtime has all afternoon to simmer, and lots of people find they’re braver typing than talking. It’s perfect for long-distance couples, a day apart before a night together, or someone shy who’d like to warm up before saying things out loud.

Here are 120 sexting examples you can send as they are, tweak, or use as a starting point, from flirty openers to filthy and kinky texts, plus sexting ideas for when you’d rather play a game. These are for two consenting adults who both want to be in the conversation, and either of you can say “not now” at any point.

How to start sexting

• Start slow. Open with something flirty, not the filthiest line on this page. It gives them an easy way in, and an easy way to say “later”.
• Read their replies. Long, warm, quick replies mean keep going. Short answers, slow replies or a change of subject mean slow down or leave it for another time.
• Match their energy, then nudge. Answer at the same level they’re at, then go one small step further and see if they follow.
• Ask before turning it up. “Want me to tell you what I’d do to you?” is a sexy question, not a mood killer, and it means you both know where you stand.
• Photos are a separate yes. Agreeing to sext isn’t agreeing to pictures. Ask, and only send what’s been asked for.
• Think about where they are. A dirty text that pops up during a meeting or on a shared screen isn’t fun for anyone. “Are you alone?” is a good first line.
• Make it about the two of you. Real details (last night, that thing they do, what they’re wearing) beat any script. Use the examples below as a springboard.

Flirty openers

Easy to send, easy to reply to.

1. I can’t stop thinking about last night.
2. What are you wearing? Asking for a very good reason.
3. Fair warning: I’m in a mood today.
4. I just caught myself smiling at my phone because of you. Explain yourself.
5. You looked so good this morning I nearly made us both late.
6. How do you feel about being kissed until you forget what day it is?
7. I had a dream about you. I’ll tell you about it if you ask nicely.
8. Is it weird that I miss the way you smell?
9. Rate your day out of ten. I have plans to improve it.
10. I’ve been very well behaved all day. I’m not sure how much longer that lasts.
11. Remind me why we’re not in bed right now?
12. Guess what I’m thinking about. Hint: it’s you, and you’re not wearing much.
13. Your lips. That’s the whole text.
14. I’d like to book you for tonight. Are you free?
15. Can I tell you something a little bit naughty?
16. I keep replaying that kiss.
17. You have no idea what your voice does to me.
18. Tonight. You, me, no plans. Thoughts?
19. I’m wearing the thing you like. Just thought you should know.
20. Can I be honest? I can’t concentrate today and it’s your fault.

Teasing “thinking about you” texts

For building anticipation through the day.

21. I’m counting the hours until I get my hands on you.
22. I just thought about you and had to stop what I was doing.
23. I’m not wearing anything under this. Just so you know.
24. Every time I close my eyes today, I’m back in bed with you.
25. I’ve got a plan for tonight. You’ll have to wait to find out what it is.
26. Don’t make plans after dinner. You’re busy.
27. I’m in the shower thinking about you. Wish you were in here with me.
28. You know that thing you did last time? I can’t stop thinking about it.
29. I’m lying in bed and it’s far too big without you in it.
30. Hurry home. I’ve been thinking about you all afternoon and I’m getting impatient.
31. I want to take my time with you tonight. A long time.
32. I keep imagining your hands on my hips.
33. I bought something new. You’ll see it later. Maybe.
34. My mind keeps wandering to your mouth. Very distracting.
35. I’m going to kiss you so slowly tonight you’ll beg me to hurry up.
36. I can still feel where you kissed my neck, and now I’m useless for the rest of the day.
37. Tell me one thing you want tonight and I’ll make it happen.
38. You’re going to have a very good evening. That’s all I’m saying.
39. I just got into bed and the sheets smell like you. Not fair.
40. When I see you, I’m not saying hello first. I’m kissing you.

Describing what you’d do

Paint the picture, one message at a time.

41. If you were here right now, I’d pull you onto the bed and kiss you until you couldn’t think.
42. First I’d take your shirt off. Slowly. Then I’d kiss every bit of skin I uncovered.
43. I want to start at your neck and work my way down. No rushing.
44. I’d push you up against the wall the second the door closed behind us.
45. I’d climb into your lap and not let you move.
46. I want to undress you with my teeth.
47. I’d kiss along your inner thighs until you’re squirming.
48. I’d tease you for so long you’d have to ask me nicely.
49. I want to go down on you and take my sweet time about it.
50. I’d pin your wrists above your head and kiss you everywhere except where you want it.
51. I want to be on top tonight, riding you slowly while you watch.
52. I’m going to run us a bath, get in with you, and see how long we last.
53. I want you to lie back and let me do all the work.
54. I’d whisper exactly what I want in your ear while my hands wander.
55. I want to watch your face while I touch you.
56. I’d blindfold you and make you guess where I’m going to kiss next.
57. I’d get you so close and then stop. Then do it again.
58. I want to hear you moan my name.
59. I’m going to kiss down your stomach and stop just where you want me to keep going.
60. I want you on the edge of the bed and me on my knees.
61. I’d bring out the toy and let you choose the speed. For a while.
62. I want to feel your whole weight on me.
63. I’m going to make you come first. Then we’ll see.
64. Tonight you tell me what to do, step by step, and I’ll do exactly that.
65. I want to kiss you everywhere, then start all over again.

Dirty texts

For when you’re both well past flirting.

66. I’m touching myself thinking about you.
67. I’m so turned on right now and you’re not here. Fix it.
68. Tell me exactly how you want me tonight.
69. What do you want me to do to you first? Be specific.
70. I want you naked the moment you walk through the door.
71. I keep thinking about the sounds you make when you come.
72. I want to taste you.
73. I want you to ride me until neither of us can think.
74. Tell me what you’re doing with your hands right now.
75. I’m already turned on and you haven’t even touched me yet.
76. Describe the last time you touched yourself. Leave nothing out.
77. I want you to tell me how close you are.
78. I want to make you come with just my mouth.
79. Bring the toy tonight. I’ve got plans for it.
80. Want a picture? Say please.
81. You’re going to be so loud tonight.
82. Your hands, my body, nothing in the way. That’s the plan.
83. I’ve been thinking about you going down on me all day.
84. I want to watch you touch yourself.
85. Fast and rough or slow and deep tonight? You choose.
86. I’m going to keep you up very, very late.
87. I want to feel you shaking under me.
88. I’m lying here imagining you between my legs.
89. Tell me something filthy you’ve never said out loud.
90. Get home, get naked, get in bed. In that order.

Kinky texts: dom and sub

For couples who already play with power. The first lines are for the one in charge; the last few are for the one who loves to obey.

91. You’re not allowed to touch yourself until I say.
92. Wear what I’ve left out on the bed. Nothing else.
93. Tonight you’re mine. Understood?
94. Message me every hour until tonight telling me how much you want me.
95. You’re going to ask permission before you come tonight.
96. I’ve decided what’s happening tonight. You’ll find out once you’re tied to the bed.
97. Be waiting for me on your knees when I walk in.
98. Tell me what you want. Then tell me why you deserve it.
99. I’m going to edge you until you beg. Then I might keep going.
100. Every time you check your phone for me today, that’s one more spank tonight.
101. Pick your safeword now. You’ll want it later.
102. You may touch yourself for one minute. Then stop, and tell me how it felt.
103. Get the rope out and leave it on the bed where you’ll see it all afternoon.
104. Tonight I’m in charge, and you’re going to be very, very good for me.
105. I’ll be blindfolding you tonight. Your only job is to feel.
106. Good. Now tell me how badly you want it.
107. Please, I’ve been good all day. Can I have you tonight?
108. I haven’t touched myself since you told me not to. It’s driving me crazy.
109. Tell me what to do tonight, and I’ll do it.
110. What would you like me to be wearing when you get home, Sir? (Or Miss, or whatever title you love.)

Want more for the dominant side? Our sub tasks list is full of rules you can hand out by text, and orgasm denial plays beautifully over a long day apart. If praise is what melts them, borrow from our praise kink phrases.

Sexting ideas: games to play by text

When you run out of things to say, play something.

111. Truth or dare. Send “truth or dare?” and take it from there. Our truth or dare over text page has 80 truths and dares written for messaging.
112. Finish the sentence. Send “Tonight I want you to…” and take turns finishing it, getting a bit bolder each time.
113. The countdown. One message an hour until you see each other, each one a little dirtier than the last.
114. Story time. Write a dirty story starring the two of you, one line each.
115. Three words, then three sentences. Describe what you want tonight in three words. Then expand.
116. Would you rather. “Would you rather I go down on you or ride you tonight?” Our dirty would you rather questions have plenty more.
117. Rule of the day. One of you sets one playful rule until you meet: what to wear underneath, or no touching yourself.
118. Voice notes only. No typing for ten minutes. Whisper instead, somewhere private.
119. Rate my fantasy. Send a fantasy; they rate it out of ten and say what would make it an eleven.
120. Tonight’s menu. Text three things you’d like to do tonight and let them order.

Keeping it private

Sexting is only fun while it stays between the two of you.

• Never forward, screenshot or show anything your partner sends without asking. Sharing someone’s intimate images without their consent is illegal in many places, and it’s a huge breach of trust even where it isn’t.
• Check notifications and shared devices. Turn off message previews on your lock screen, and think about tablets, laptops or family accounts that sync your messages.
• Leave faces out of photos. Tattoos, birthmarks and recognizable backgrounds too. Many people never send photos at all, and words can be just as hot.
• Delete if asked. If your partner asks you to delete something, do it, and tell them you have.
• Only sext adults, and only people who’ve shown they want to. Sending explicit messages or images nobody asked for isn’t flirting.
• Use an app you trust. Disappearing messages help, but anyone can still take a photo of a screen, so don’t rely on them.

Checking in

You don’t need to stop every few messages, but a quick “Still into this?” or “Too much?” keeps things easy, and it’s a great excuse for a reply like “More, please.” Either of you can stop at any point, by text, with no explanation needed; some couples agree a texting safeword like “red” so there’s no confusion. If things got intense, a sweet message afterward (“That was so hot. Love you.”) is a little dose of aftercare.

Sexting is great practice for saying things out loud, too. When you’re ready, our guide to what to say during sex takes the same ideas into the bedroom. For more ways to talk about what you want, try our sexy questions to ask your partner, or browse the list of kinks together and see which ones make you both reach for your phones.