What should an aftercare plan include?

What each of you needs straight after a scene (physical comfort like a blanket or water, and emotional comfort like reassurance or quiet), words that help, things to avoid, signs that one of you is dropping in the days after, what helps then, and when you'll check in and debrief.

Does the dominant partner need aftercare too?

Often, yes. Tops and dominants can feel drained, guilty or low after a scene (sometimes called dom drop). That's why this plan has space for both partners.

What is drop, and when does it happen?

Drop is a dip in mood or energy after an intense scene. It can arrive straight away, but often shows up a day or two later. Planning a next-day check-in catches what immediate aftercare can miss.

Is what I type saved or sent anywhere?

It's saved in your browser on this device only, and nothing is sent to us. If you share it, your answers travel inside the link itself, so only send it to the person you're planning with.

When should we fill it in?

Before your first scene together, when you're both calm. Then revisit it now and then. What you need can change over time, or after different kinds of scenes.

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Aftercare plan

What each of you needs after a scene, and in the days after: comfort, words that help, signs of drop, and when you'll check in. Fill it in before you play, then print it or share it.

How to use it

• Fill it in together, or each fill in your own and share links.
• Do it calmly and fully clothed, well before the scene, not in the moment.
• A plan isn't a promise. Either of you can change your mind or stop at any time.
• Everything stays in your browser. Nothing you write is sent to us.

Straight after

What helps each of you come down gently in the first half hour.

Names or nicknames

Partner 1

Partner 2

Physical comfort

Partner 1

Partner 2

Emotional comfort

Partner 1

Partner 2

Words or phrases that help

Partner 1

Partner 2

Things to avoid afterward

Partner 1

Partner 2

The next few days

Drop (feeling low, tired or anxious) can arrive a day or two later, for either partner, including the one who led.

Signs I might be dropping

Partner 1

Partner 2

What helps if I am

Partner 1

Partner 2

Our next-day check-in

Debrief

When we will talk about how it went

Questions we will ask each other

Saved on this device only. The share link contains your answers, so send it only to the person you're planning with.

Why plan aftercare in advance?

Right after an intense scene, nobody is at their best at working out what they need. Deciding beforehand means the blanket, the water and the right words are already there. Read more in our guides to aftercare and sub drop, or find out your aftercare style first.

Next, try the scene negotiation checklist, or browse our games for couples.

Frequently asked questions

What should an aftercare plan include?: What each of you needs straight after a scene (physical comfort like a blanket or water, and emotional comfort like reassurance or quiet), words that help, things to avoid, signs that one of you is dropping in the days after, what helps then, and when you'll check in and debrief.
Does the dominant partner need aftercare too?: Often, yes. Tops and dominants can feel drained, guilty or low after a scene (sometimes called dom drop). That's why this plan has space for both partners.
What is drop, and when does it happen?: Drop is a dip in mood or energy after an intense scene. It can arrive straight away, but often shows up a day or two later. Planning a next-day check-in catches what immediate aftercare can miss.
Is what I type saved or sent anywhere?: It's saved in your browser on this device only, and nothing is sent to us. If you share it, your answers travel inside the link itself, so only send it to the person you're planning with.
When should we fill it in?: Before your first scene together, when you're both calm. Then revisit it now and then. What you need can change over time, or after different kinds of scenes.