Spicy Truth or Dare Questions: 100 Dirty Truths and Dares for Couples

Regular truth or dare is a party game. Spicy truth or dare is foreplay. These 100 truths and dares are written for couples who want the game to go somewhere: honest questions about sex and desire, and dares that get hands-on and clothes off.

They’re for two consenting adults, in private. The spicy half warms you up; the dirty half is written to get you naked and into bed.

Before you start

• Set the ceiling. Agree what’s off the table tonight. Anything not clearly in is out.
• Pick a safeword. It ends the game instantly, no sulking.
• Skip freely. Pass on any card, no reason needed.
• Go up in steps. Start with the spicy section and move to dirty when you’re both enjoying it.

Want them shuffled for you? Our online truth or dare has Spicy and Kinky levels with timers for timed dares. For a gentler warm-up, start with our main list of truth or dare questions.

Spicy truth questions

Frank, flirty, and about the two of you.

1. If we were alone right now, what would you do to me first? Be specific.
2. What’s a turn-on of yours I still haven’t figured out?
3. What’s the hottest dream you’ve ever had about me, and how did it end?
4. Where’s the one place on my body you can’t stop thinking about?
5. Where do you most want my mouth tonight?
6. What’s a fantasy about me you’ve never said out loud?
7. What’s the sexiest thing I’ve ever worn, and what did you want to do to me in it?
8. When was the last time you got turned on thinking about me somewhere you couldn’t do anything about it?
9. What’s the one thing I do in bed that you’d never want me to stop?
10. Slow and teasing, or fast and rough: what do you want from me tonight?
11. What sound do I make that drives you wild?
12. What do you picture when you touch yourself?
13. What’s the best sex we’ve ever had, and what made it so good?
14. What position haven’t we tried that you’ve been thinking about?
15. What’s one thing you’d like me to do more of in bed, starting tonight?
16. What’s the most turned on I’ve ever made you?
17. Have you ever had to stop what you were doing because you were thinking about me naked?
18. Would you rather undress me, or watch me undress for you?
19. Which part of my body do you think about most when I’m not there?
20. What do you want to hear me say while we’re having sex?
21. What’s something you’ve wanted to ask for in bed but felt shy about?
22. Where in our home, other than the bed, do you want to have me?
23. What’s the naughtiest message you’ve ever typed to me and then deleted?
24. Lights on, lights off, or in front of a mirror?
25. If you could have me any way you wanted tonight, how would it go?

Dirty truth questions

More direct, for when you’re both in the mood.

26. What’s the dirtiest thought you’ve had about me this week?
27. What’s your favorite way to make me come?
28. What’s your favorite way for me to make you come?
29. When did you last touch yourself thinking about me, and what was I doing in your head?
30. What’s the wildest thing you’ve ever done in bed?
31. What toy would you like to use on me, and where?
32. What’s something you’ve watched or read that turned you on more than you expected?
33. What’s your favorite thing to do with your mouth, and to which part of me?
34. Have you ever faked an orgasm with me? Be honest.
35. What’s one thing you want me to do to you that we’ve never done?
36. Would you rather be teased for an hour or taken right now?
37. Do you like it better when I go down on you slowly, or when I don’t hold back?
38. What’s the longest you’ve wanted me without saying so?
39. Would it turn you on to watch us in a mirror while we have sex?
40. What’s the filthiest thing you’d like me to whisper in your ear?
41. If anywhere at all were possible, where’s the most outrageous place you’ve fantasized about having sex with me?
42. Would you rather be tied up or blindfolded tonight?
43. What’s a fantasy you’d love us to act out, even just once?
44. Have you ever wanted to film or photograph us, just for the two of us?
45. What’s the fastest way to get you from zero to desperate?
46. Rough or gentle: which do you secretly want more of?
47. What’s a rule you’d love me to give you in bed?
48. Giving or receiving oral: which do you love more, and why?
49. Have you ever wanted me to just push you onto the bed and take charge?
50. What’s the one thing that gets you there every time?

Spicy dares

Hands-on, but still mostly foreplay.

51. Give your partner a one-minute lap dance. They’re not allowed to touch.
52. Undress your partner, one item at a time, kissing each patch of skin you uncover.
53. Kiss and nibble your partner’s neck for one minute, until they squirm.
54. Take your top off for your partner as slowly as you can, eyes on theirs the whole time.
55. Let your partner blindfold you and kiss you anywhere they like for one minute.
56. Whisper three things you’ll do to your partner later tonight, in order, in detail.
57. Kiss your way down your partner’s stomach and stop at the waistband. Make them wait.
58. Take off your partner’s underwear using only your teeth.
59. Give your partner an oil massage, avoiding the obvious places until they beg.
60. Run an ice cube along your partner’s inner thighs, then warm the same path with your mouth.
61. Straddle your partner facing them and grind slowly in their lap for one song.
62. Strip for your partner to a song they choose, all the way down to nothing.
63. Let your partner touch you anywhere for one minute while you keep your hands behind your back.
64. Kiss your partner’s inner thighs, slowly, getting closer and closer, for one minute.
65. Tie your partner’s hands with a scarf. They stay that way until your next turn.
66. Show your partner, on yourself, exactly how you like to be touched.
67. Moan your partner’s name the way you do when you’re about to come.
68. Bend your partner over the bed and give them three spanks, then kiss each spot.
69. Trail your tongue from your partner’s knee to their hip, as slowly as you can.
70. Read the dirtiest message you’ve ever sent your partner out loud, then act out the first line.
71. Lick something sweet off any part of your partner’s body they choose.
72. Let your partner take off two items of your clothing. They choose which.
73. Kiss your partner with your hands tied behind your back, for one minute.
74. Press your partner up against the wall and kiss them like you’re about to take them there.
75. Breathe on your partner’s neck, chest and stomach for 30 seconds without touching them.

Dirty dares

Foreplay rules: these are meant to lead somewhere. (For more ways to build up slowly, try our foreplay games.)

76. Get completely naked and stay that way until the end of the game.
77. Touch yourself for one minute while your partner watches, and don’t break eye contact.
78. Use your mouth anywhere you like on your partner for one minute.
79. Lie back and let your partner touch you however they like for one minute. You’re not allowed to move.
80. Go down on your partner for one minute, then stop, however much they beg.
81. Edge your partner with your hand, then stop. They have to ask nicely for more.
82. Use a toy on your partner for one minute, at the speed they choose.
83. Get your partner as close as you can in two minutes, then stop and make them wait for their next turn.
84. Lie back and let your partner tease you with their mouth for two minutes. You can’t touch back.
85. Tell your partner exactly how you want to be touched tonight, then guide their hand there.
86. Blindfold your partner and kiss your way slowly down their body, all the way down.
87. Tie your partner’s hands and tease them with your mouth for one minute.
88. Ride your partner, clothes on, for one minute, kissing them the whole time.
89. Sit on your partner’s lap naked and kiss them for one minute. They’re not allowed to touch you.
90. Spank your partner five times, gradually harder. They count each one and say thank you.
91. Decide what your partner wears, or doesn’t, for the rest of the night.
92. Touch yourself following your partner’s instructions exactly, for one minute.
93. Your partner names any place on their body. Use your mouth there for one minute.
94. Tell your partner, out loud and in detail, exactly what you want them to do to you next.
95. Undress your partner completely, without letting them help, then just look at them for ten seconds.
96. Hold your partner down by the wrists and tease them until they say please.
97. Give your partner a slow full-body massage, both of you naked, for two minutes.
98. Whisper the dirtiest sentence you can think of into your partner’s ear, then kiss them.
99. Pick a toy, a position, or a game for the rest of the night. Your partner gets one veto.
100. End the game: take your partner to bed and give them the one thing they asked for tonight.

Keep it good for both of you

• Check in. A quick “still good?” keeps a dirty dare feeling hot instead of pressured.
• No dare overrides a no. Skipping is part of the game, not a failure.
• Safer sex still applies. Clean toys before and after, and use condoms or barriers if you normally would.
• Afterwards, a cuddle and a laugh about the best moments is the perfect ending. That’s aftercare, and it matters even after a game.

More ideas

• Dares for couples: 100 more dares, from cute to kinky.
• Dirty would you rather questions for when you’d rather choose than do.
• Sexy questions to ask your partner, when you’d rather just talk.
• Questions to ask your girlfriend or your boyfriend, from sweet to spicy.
• Kinky sex ideas for when a dare sparks something you want to try properly.
• Dirty Truth or Dare, a much filthier game on Free Use Party, our sister site for adults (18+ only), for when even the dirty half here feels tame.