Would You Rather Questions for Couples: 100 Fun to Spicy Questions

Would you rather is the perfect couples’ game: no setup, no props, and every answer is a little window into how your partner thinks. Here are 100 would you rather questions for couples, from silly to romantic to spicy. Play on a date, on a road trip, or curled up on the sofa.

The rule that makes it work: you have to pick one, and you have to say why.

How to play

• Take turns asking. No “neither” and no “both”. Pick one.
• Always ask “why?” That’s where the good stuff is.
• Make it a game. Guess your partner’s answer first. One point for every right guess.
• Play online. Our free would you rather game lets you each answer privately and then compare.

Fun and silly questions

Low stakes, high laughs.

1. Would you rather always have to sing instead of talk, or dance everywhere you walk?
2. Would you rather live in a treehouse or a houseboat together?
3. Would you rather have a pet dragon or a pet unicorn?
4. Would you rather give up coffee or chocolate for a year?
5. Would you rather be able to read my mind or have me read yours?
6. Would you rather only eat pizza or only eat tacos for a month?
7. Would you rather be famous together or rich and anonymous together?
8. Would you rather have a rewind button or a pause button for our life?
9. Would you rather never use social media again or never watch another film?
10. Would you rather be stuck in a lift together for three hours or on a long-haul flight with a crying baby?
11. Would you rather have breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast, forever?
12. Would you rather our house always be too hot or too cold?
13. Would you rather swap bodies with me for a day or swap jobs with me for a week?
14. Would you rather win a dance-off or a cook-off?
15. Would you rather explore space or the deep ocean?
16. Would you rather have no phone for a week or no hot water for a week?
17. Would you rather be a famous singer or a famous actor?
18. Would you rather talk to animals or speak every human language?
19. Would you rather live in the city or the countryside together?
20. Would you rather have a house full of cats or a house full of dogs?
21. Would you rather always be ten minutes early or always twenty minutes late?
22. Would you rather relive our first date or skip ahead to our tenth anniversary?
23. Would you rather have a personal chef or a personal cleaner?
24. Would you rather camp in the wilderness or stay in a fancy hotel?
25. Would you rather never argue again or always make up perfectly?

Romantic and date-night questions

Good for learning what your partner really loves.

26. Would you rather have breakfast in bed or a surprise dinner out?
27. Would you rather get a handwritten love letter or a thoughtful gift?
28. Would you rather go on a spontaneous road trip or a carefully planned holiday?
29. Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen or at a fancy ball?
30. Would you rather stargaze or watch the sunrise together?
31. Would you rather have a weekly date night or a big trip once a year?
32. Would you rather be surprised on your birthday or plan it yourself?
33. Would you rather hear “I love you” or be shown it?
34. Would you rather cuddle on the sofa or go dancing all night?
35. Would you rather renew our vows on a beach or in the mountains?
36. Would you rather have a picnic in the park or dinner on a rooftop?
37. Would you rather relive our first kiss or our first “I love you”?
38. Would you rather travel the world with no money or stay home with unlimited money?
39. Would you rather write a song for me or have one written about us?
40. Would you rather spend a day at a spa or a day at a theme park together?
41. Would you rather cook together or have me cook for you?
42. Would you rather get matching tattoos or matching rings?
43. Would you rather have a lazy Sunday in bed or a busy Saturday out?
44. Would you rather receive flowers every week or one big bunch on a random day?
45. Would you rather take a cooking class or a dance class together?
46. Would you rather know how we’ll be in 20 years or be surprised?
47. Would you rather go back to the day we met or fast-forward to our retirement?
48. Would you rather have a quiet wedding or a huge party?
49. Would you rather leave little notes for each other or send texts all day?
50. Would you rather plan our next date or be taken on one?

Flirty questions

A little warmer.

51. Would you rather be kissed on the neck or the lips?
52. Would you rather I wore something fancy or nothing but your shirt?
53. Would you rather have a long make-out session or a long massage?
54. Would you rather I whisper in your ear or text you something flirty in public?
55. Would you rather be the big spoon or the little spoon?
56. Would you rather shower together or bathe together?
57. Would you rather be woken up with kisses or breakfast?
58. Would you rather I made the first move tonight, or you did?
59. Would you rather slow dance or make out to our song?
60. Would you rather I flirted with you in public or in private?
61. Would you rather spend a whole day in bed or a whole night out dancing?
62. Would you rather I wore lingerie or a suit?
63. Would you rather have a romantic bath or a romantic picnic?
64. Would you rather I described what I like about you or showed you?
65. Would you rather kiss in the rain or by a fire?
66. Would you rather be undressed slowly, or have your clothes pulled off?
67. Would you rather hold hands everywhere or steal kisses everywhere?
68. Would you rather I sent you a flirty photo or a flirty voice note?
69. Would you rather a surprise hotel night or a surprise cabin weekend?
70. Would you rather have a massage with oil or with my hands only?
71. Would you rather be teased all day or surprised all at once?
72. Would you rather I wore your favorite outfit or picked a new one for you?
73. Would you rather a slow kiss on the neck or a quick one somewhere unexpected?
74. Would you rather I called you gorgeous or sexy?
75. Would you rather have a candlelit dinner or a candlelit bath?

Spicy questions

Turning up the heat. For filthier ones, see our dirty would you rather questions.

76. Would you rather have sex first thing in the morning or last thing at night?
77. Would you rather take charge in bed or let me take charge of you?
78. Would you rather try a new position or a new toy tonight?
79. Would you rather have a quickie right now or an all-night session later?
80. Would you rather be blindfolded or have your wrists held down?
81. Would you rather I talked dirty or stayed completely quiet?
82. Would you rather watch me undress or undress me yourself?
83. Would you rather be teased for an hour or have it all right now?
84. Would you rather get a lap dance or give one?
85. Would you rather try roleplay or a proper spanking?
86. Would you rather have sex in the shower or on the kitchen table?
87. Would you rather I wore something sexy or nothing at all?
88. Would you rather slow and loving or fast and rough tonight?
89. Would you rather kiss every inch of me or have me kiss every inch of you?
90. Would you rather go down on me or have me go down on you?
91. Would you rather use ice or warm oil on each other?
92. Would you rather I was on top or underneath?
93. Would you rather plan everything we’ll do tonight or be surprised?
94. Would you rather have a mirror by the bed or candles everywhere?
95. Would you rather I begged or you begged?
96. Would you rather we used a toy on you or on me?
97. Would you rather lights on so you can see everything, or lights off so you can feel everything?
98. Would you rather fantasize about sex on a sleeper train or in a lift stuck between floors?
99. Would you rather be told exactly what to do or have to guess what I want?
100. Would you rather finish this list or finish this conversation in bed?

Want more?

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• Truth or dare questions and our free would you rather game.