Kinktober is a month-long October challenge. Ours gives you one small, beginner-friendly prompt a day for 31 days, from picking a safeword on day 1 to planning and trying a short scene in the final week. It's built around talking first and going slowly.

Do we have to do every day?

No. Skip anything, do days out of order, or take a week to do one. Missed days stay open. The only rule is that nothing happens without both of you agreeing, and either of you can stop at any time.

Can I do Kinktober on my own?

Yes. Most days work solo: read the linked guide, think about your answers, and note anything you'd like to bring to a future partner. Skip the partner-only days or save them for later.

Is my progress saved?

Only in your browser on this device. Nothing is sent to us. Clearing your browser data, or switching devices, starts you fresh.

Can we do it outside October?

Yes. In October each day unlocks on its date; the rest of the year every day is open. Either way, you can tap 'Start my 31 days today' to begin at day 1 on any date, with a new day unlocking each day from then.

We're starting late. Is it too late?

Not at all. Missed days stay open, so you can catch up, and the first week is mostly talking. Or tap 'Start my 31 days today' and do the whole challenge at a day a time from now, even if it runs into November.

Free couples game

Kinktober: a 31-day kink challenge

One small prompt a day through October, starting with talking and building slowly to a scene you plan together. Tick off each day as you go. A new day unlocks every day, missed days stay open, and you can start your own 31 days on any date.

Ground rules before you play

• Any prompt can be skipped, no explanation needed.
• Agree a safeword that ends the game straight away.
• Not sure what's on the table? Compare your yes/no/maybe lists first.
• Everything runs in your browser. Nothing you choose is sent to us.

0 of 31 days done

Day 1 · Talk

How the month is built

Days 1–7: Talk. Set things up: safewords, limits, curiosities.
Days 8–14: Senses. Slow, sensory and low-intensity.
Days 15–21: Power. Gentle power exchange, fully negotiated.
Days 22–28: Play. Games, roleplay between adults, a little impact.
Days 29–31: Finale. Plan it, try it, look back.

Every week ends with a check-in, because the point isn't to tick boxes. It's to find out what you both enjoy. If a prompt doesn't suit you, swap it for something from 30 kinky sex ideas or tonight's dare on the games page. For Halloween night itself, try our kinky Halloween ideas. Come December, there's a 24-day kinky advent calendar too.

Before you start

New to all of this? Read the beginner's guide to BDSM first. It covers consent, limits and aftercare in more depth. If anything ever feels wrong, stop, check in, and look after each other. Talking about it is always part of the challenge.

Frequently asked questions

What is Kinktober?: Kinktober is a month-long October challenge. Ours gives you one small, beginner-friendly prompt a day for 31 days, from picking a safeword on day 1 to planning and trying a short scene in the final week. It's built around talking first and going slowly.
Do we have to do every day?: No. Skip anything, do days out of order, or take a week to do one. Missed days stay open. The only rule is that nothing happens without both of you agreeing, and either of you can stop at any time.
Can I do Kinktober on my own?: Yes. Most days work solo: read the linked guide, think about your answers, and note anything you'd like to bring to a future partner. Skip the partner-only days or save them for later.
Is my progress saved?: Only in your browser on this device. Nothing is sent to us. Clearing your browser data, or switching devices, starts you fresh.
Can we do it outside October?: Yes. In October each day unlocks on its date; the rest of the year every day is open. Either way, you can tap 'Start my 31 days today' to begin at day 1 on any date, with a new day unlocking each day from then.
We're starting late. Is it too late?: Not at all. Missed days stay open, so you can catch up, and the first week is mostly talking. Or tap 'Start my 31 days today' and do the whole challenge at a day a time from now, even if it runs into November.

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Kinky Truth or Dare

Themed packs from flirty to kinky. Take turns, or send each other cards when you're apart. Skip anything.

Kinky Advent Calendar

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Kinky Never Have I Ever

45 statements from flirty to kinky, with a score for up to six players. Share the story, or just smile.

Kink Bingo

A 5x5 card of small things to try together. Five in a row wins. Saved on your device all week.

Roleplay Scenario Generator

Two adult characters, a setting and a twist. Keep what you like and reroll the rest.

Random Kink Generator

Spin for a kink: what it is, a gentle way to try it, and what to watch for. Hide the noes, share the yeses.

Sex Dice

Roll for an action, a place, and how long. Three sets, or write your own.

Kinky Would You Rather

Answer 30 questions on your own, then compare with your partner to see how in sync you are.

Printable Sex Coupons

36 coupons from sweet to kinky, plus blanks to write your own. Print, cut out, and give.

Yes / No / Maybe List

Mark 64 activities privately and see where you and your partner match and where you differ.